kathyvabuk: Online dating - more discouraging that actual dating

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Anonymous #1

King Klick That Guy Everyone Knows ? Registered: 11/13/11 Posts: 3,557 Last seen: 20 hours, 25 minutes
	Which site? Some sites are complete bullshit. -------------------- Your god is dead, and i killed him. The moment you refuse the human rights for just a few, what happens when that view includes you? Enter the Ban Lottery Here, Go On Do It
Anonymous #1

King Klick That Guy Everyone Knows ? Registered: 11/13/11 Posts: 3,557 Last seen: 20 hours, 25 minutes
	Quote: *Anonymous said:* OKcupid. I see that people are visiting my profile, but that hurts even more that none of them will even talk to me. I really hate myself SO MUCH Now man the fuck up.? It's just people. They're billions of them and they're mostly a burden. The time will come when you meet some bitch, settle down, and have kids. Just enjoy what you got until then. -------------------- Your god is dead, and i killed him. The moment you refuse the human rights for just a few, what happens when that view includes you? Enter the Ban Lottery Here, Go On Do It
ArchNemesis Stranger Registered: 11/25/12 Posts: 4 Last seen: 20 hours, 27 minutes
	I have your answer.? Get busy getting paid and skirts will follow.? If you build it, they will come.? Trust me.
King Klick That Guy Everyone Knows ? Registered: 11/13/11 Posts: 3,557 Last seen: 20 hours, 25 minutes
	Quote: *ArchNemesis said:* I have your answer.? Get busy getting paid and skirts will follow.? If you build it, they will come.? Trust me. New guy is right. Women are material creatures. -------------------- Your god is dead, and i killed him. The moment you refuse the human rights for just a few, what happens when that view includes you? Enter the Ban Lottery Here, Go On Do It
ArchNemesis Stranger Registered: 11/25/12 Posts: 4 Last seen: 20 hours, 27 minutes
	In these days, you can get 2 hours with a bombshell hottie escort in whatever flavor you want, with a cherry on top for $300 to tide you over as well.? Google escorts + your city.? Stay away from the $50 specials....? Lol!
Anonymous #1
	Im not looking for sex. Im looking for a friend, someone to talk to, someone to spend time with. It is depressing being alone all the time and I am becoming more and more anti-social as the days go by. My panic attacks are getting worse too when im around other people. All I do is try to stay strong and "man the fuck up", and nothing positive comes from it. This dating site thing was a last ditch effort to try to meet people... I havent felt SO shitty and worthless than I do now. I try to rationalize it and think of reasons why not a single fucking person has even given me even a shred of a chance, like maybe I posted some bad pictures or maybe my profile is poorly written. I seriously do not understand anymore and its making me hate who I am... like Im not good enough for ANYONE, not a single fucking human being on this planet It is SO disheartening, I cannot begin to express the pain I feel on a daily basis, because I feel like such a loser, SUCH a loner. What is the point of all this pain? What is the point of trying SO FUCKING HARD and seeing 0 results? Not even once! I cannot even justify those odds with a positive thought.
Acidic_Sloth Acidic poly-Sided Di-slothamide ? Registered: 05/29/02 Posts: 38,225 Loc: ainrofilac
	hey, OP, have you thought about maybe attending some local shroomery gatherings? the people here are great and many of them would love to be your friends, i'm sure. i'm probably not anywhere close to you, i'm not really close to anyone, but i do have a PM box that is always open to those who wish to use it. i know you want someone to hang out with, but i can offer what i can give. if you ever need to really talk, just shoot me a PM and you can have at least a moment of my time, mostly likely more. (don't be discouraged if i don't respond RIGHT away though, i will thoughtfully respond when i know i have sufficient time to. ^_^) -------------------- -- Accept my heart warming gift of TREE SCRATCHIES!!! I absolve thee!! -- JaP: 30,000 lines of gay, cock, and fag can't be wrong Ped: only in #shroomery is "smuggle opium in her ass" followed by "i don't want shitty opium" which is followed by " *** Joins: PENISSQUAD" -- JaP: What would this place be without random sluts? JaP: Nothing, I tell you.
meams Blessed Registered: 01/11/05 Posts: 16,471 Loc: In a Tree
	Anon #1 Sorry to hear your situation.? The only advice I can offer up is to figure out what hobbies and activities you enjoy outside of work, and engage in them locally.? Sharing time in a group with people who share your interest is a inherent precursor to friends. I recently broke up with my long-term girlfriend after we had moved together to a new city.? Now I've lost my social safety net, and I've gotta get back into the world again.? I'm about go embark on the same journey you NEED to embark on: Seeking out local interests. Go do it. Today. Join a chess club, yoga, shooting club, local kickball league, ANYTHING.? Just go there, try to be friendly but not creepy/needy/isolated/etc.? You know, all that normal shit. Try to have a good time.? Grab a drink or two at home before you go to the place if you want to take a edge off (just don't become reliant on this, or people might pick up on it and assume you an alcoholic).
Acidic_Sloth Acidic poly-Sided Di-slothamide ? Registered: 05/29/02 Posts: 38,225 Loc: ainrofilac
	Quote: *meams said:* Anon #1 Sorry to hear your situation.? The only advice I can offer up is to figure out what hobbies and activities you enjoy outside of work, and engage in them locally.? Sharing time in a group with people who share your interest is a inherent precursor to friends. I recently broke up with my long-term girlfriend after we had moved together to a new city.? Now I've lost my social safety net, and I've gotta get back into the world again.? I'm about go embark on the same journey you NEED to embark on: Seeking out local interests. Go do it. Today. Join a chess club, yoga, shooting club, local kickball league, ANYTHING.? Just go there, try to be friendly but not creepy/needy/isolated/etc.? You know, all that normal shit. Try to have a good time.? Grab a drink or two at home before you go to the place if you want to take a edge off (just don't become reliant on this, or people might pick up on it and assume you an alcoholic). YESYESYESYESYES!! -------------------- -- Accept my heart warming gift of TREE SCRATCHIES!!! I absolve thee!! -- JaP: 30,000 lines of gay, cock, and fag can't be wrong Ped: only in #shroomery is "smuggle opium in her ass" followed by "i don't want shitty opium" which is followed by " *** Joins: PENISSQUAD" -- JaP: What would this place be without random sluts? JaP: Nothing, I tell you.
Anonymous #1
	ive become VERY VERY withheld when it comes to meeting groups of people... i have panic attacks even being around good people... and I do actually do Yoga, which I LOVE. Im afraid to show weakness around people. and even when im doing yoga, which is supposed to be extremely relaxing.. it takes a LOT to hold back the panic attacks.
pirate-blues The sun was high(so was i) Registered: 10/15/12 Posts: 179 Loc: Philadelphia
	Aw, OP, I really feel for you because I've had anxiety before and though it wasn't caused by social situations it would still effect social situations. And when I first moved to Philly I knew literally no one, I moved in the summer before I started college and I just felt lonely and lost and it was terrible. I think that you should seek help for your anxiety. I can guarantee you that the things you think about yourself are mainly borne out of that anxiety. Once you get to the root cause of that and learn to manage it, being social will become so much easier and thus, meeting people! I really hope things look up for you! -------------------- Before you, your mom and dad used to Smoke in the Texas sun - They were young once too. Your mom, she found Jesus While your old man stepped out and drew up his veins It's quiet, in the house of the old You can hear through grinding teeth, clocks takin' their toll 'Cause time has a mind of it's own And like our sun spinnin' 'round, it won't slow for you now Edited by pirate-blues (11/26/12 01:35 AM)
Anonymous #2
	Quote: *meams said:* Join a chess club, yoga, shooting club, local kickball league, ANYTHING.? Just go there, try to be friendly but not creepy/needy/isolated/etc.? You know, all that normal shit. Don't mean to hijack, but what if you are introverted and find it hard to talk to people? I'm in a similar boat and I'm deeply involved in a couple activities. But in most cases, I don't see the same people outside the activity.
lovesexdubstep The Voice of Reason Registered: 12/18/11 Posts: 339 Last seen: 7 hours, 46 minutes
	those girls on okcupid get literally 100s of messages a day. the ratio between guys to girls on there is absurd. even average looking uninteresting girls get hit up constantly so their egos are out of touch with reality. it is 100% a numbers game, if you are above average looks wise, tall, and have your life on track, still only like 1 in 20 attractive girls will respond to you, so its not just you lol.
koraks ? Registered: 06/02/03 Posts: 17,828
	Quote: *lovesexdubstep said:* the ratio between guys to girls on there is absurd. Not in my experience; perhaps the ratio is skewed, but not insanely so, I believe. Not on OKCupid at least. Quote: even average looking uninteresting girls get hit up constantly so their egos are out of touch with reality. There's some truth in this. It's funny, you see, because on dating sites, you'd expect people to show their best side. What happens though, is that women transform magically into arrogant ice queens and men into testosterone-driven baboons. It's the consequence of the online dating dynamic. Men send out 100s of messages because they know only 1% will receive a response (well, up to 20% if you're lucky, but not more than that). Needless to say, these messages aren't all very-well thought through, because otherwise, online dating would actually be a full-time job. So women get annoyed by the standard messages they receive and don't bother to answer the vast majority of them. Which leads the men to send out even more messages, and so forth. If you want to experience the ugliest side of humans, either watch a documentary about the Nazis or join OKCupid
koods Hunter/Gatherer ? Registered: 05/26/11 Posts: 1,492 Loc: Maryland/DC Burbs Last seen: 27 seconds
	Quote: *ArchNemesis said:* In these days, you can get 2 hours with a bombshell hottie escort in whatever flavor you want, with a cherry on top for $300 to tide you over as well.? Google escorts + your city.? Stay away from the $50 specials....? Lol! Come on man, he's not trying to get laid. He wants companionship, and the only thing worse than not having someone is paying to have someone.
koods Hunter/Gatherer ? Registered: 05/26/11 Posts: 1,492 Loc: Maryland/DC Burbs Last seen: 27 seconds
	I have no evidence to back my opinion about these online dating services, but I kinda think there is disproportionate number of people looking to fuck around on their husbands/wives/spouses, etc.
Anonymous #3
	Kidnap someone and hold them prisoner in your basement.
koraks ? Registered: 06/02/03 Posts: 17,828
	Oh, there's always a healthy share of cheaters, swingers, cuckolders and poly's on there. Most of them actually drop hints about it in their profiles, especially on OKCupid, so if you keep your eyes open, it's usually pretty clear. Quote: *Anonymous said:* Kidnap someone and hold them prisoner in your basement. Oh, so incredibly funny and mature! I don't feel like using the ban script at the moment, but I really should. Read the fucking rules of this forum again, n00b. Edited by koraks (11/26/12 02:31 AM)